It's good they have to work for it.* I think it's incredibly bad for a child if they grow up thinking they can get something by not working for it. It's taken me ages to adjust to the whole BJJ "your first few months' of rolling will consist of you getting tapped out all the time". It's a valuable life lesson. Sometimes you work very hard for something and still don't get it. It sucks yeah but don't be totally disheartened, keep on truckin' :)

*I'm assuming here they're not being tortured or anything like that