Prominent Houston BJJ Black Belt Steps Down As Academy Leader/Instructor

[BackFistMonkey]

Some of you may look at that list, and might think that it is overkill, or excessively prude, or might be contrary to people wearing the shorts or super hero costumes they like, or interfere with the gym selfies.
But, from my perspective, it is a "cut the crap" set of best practices.
The training room should be a training room, and should not be treated like a disco tech.

Teaching puts one in a position of authority. Anyone in a position of authority should safe guard their own interests, as well as their ward's/student's interest. Part of that making sure you are covered. The only way to be covered is to make sure you are covered, by planning ahead and avoiding questionable situations.

I think your policy is pretty smart.

[Dr. Gonzo]

4 Best Practices

Here are 4 Best Practices:

1) Instructors should not date (nor make advances towards) their students.
Rare exceptions occur where spouses train with each other.
But instructors should not be dating people whom they teach, nor be making advances to them.

2) Students should not date their teachers.

3) I personally don't think students who train together should include the other students to populate their lists of new people to date.
Exceptions occur where spouses train with each other.
But in general, it is a selfish thing to do that can easily disturb the training environment for everyone else.

4) If an instructor is giving a private lesson, and it is a straight male and a straight woman, or two gay members of the same sex, or one of them is bi, or the student is underage, or any other circumstance where there could be an opportunity or the perception of impropriety, then additional people should be present during the lesson and/or there should be natural foot traffic that would prevent any appearance or opportunity for impropriety.

I'll add a bonus, gi's help de-sexualize the bodies and prevent skin on skin infection transmission.
In the absence of gi's then full body rashguard long sleeve tops, with long sleeve leggings, and a pair of shorts on top also help de-sexualize the bodies and help prevent skin on skin infection transmission.

Some of you may look at that list, and might think that it is overkill, or excessively prude, or might be contrary to people wearing the shorts or super hero costumes they like, or interfere with the gym selfies.
But, from my perspective, it is a "cut the crap" set of best practices.
The training room should be a training room, and should not be treated like a disco tech.

[jitschix]

Thank you for speaking up and sharing your experience. I HOPE you aren't criticized here or anywhere for what you did and how you reacted.

And it sucks he's teaching again.

[unk]

Long Overdue, But Here It Is

I know this thread is more than two years old, but it still affects me now.
I have read through the comments and replies many times. I know I should ignore it and try to move on. But that is easier said than done.
I don't know if anyone will ever read this, or if it will ever be seen, but I figure it's time for me to finally say something.

Let me start by saying this:

It's me. I am the girl who spoke out. I am the reason "shit hit the fan". I am the reason Alvis Solis sold his school over two years ago.
I had finally found the courage to say something because I was not willing to let his actions continue to negatively effect my life. It was beginning to impact my reputation as a person. I was unwilling to let his unwanted actions give people the wrong idea about me. Which looking back, is really sad. It's sad that I was willing to endure his continuous unsolicited actions towards me and keep it a secret. It shouldn't have taken my fear of being seen as someone I am not for me to say something. But unfortunately, this is the world we live in and sometimes it's easier to keep a secret as long as it doesn't publicly impact you. I gave him multiple chances (too many) and multiple warnings to back off. And it worked, for about a week. Then it would start all over again.

I would like to emphasize that the things he did to me were not illegal, but they were certainly inappropriate and definitely not asked for. Trust me, I tried to press charges and pursue this criminally, but the detective I spoke with explained to me that there really wasn't anything they could do about it legally. I was not underaged and the things he did and tried to do to me were not defined as illegal within the statute. Would it have escalated into something that would have been defined by statute as illegal? I don't know. I didn't let it get that far. Once I finally said something, other females reached out to me and told me their stories. Their stories were eerily similar to my experiences and some of them definitely had a worse experience than me. I was one of the lucky ones. I was able to remove myself from the situation before things got out of hand. And let me tell you, it was not easy. I thought I was alone. I was convinced that if I said something, I would be the bad guy. That no one would believe me. When I was younger I would read about or hear about women becoming victims of sexual harassment or assault and I would tell myself (and anyone who would listen), "That'll never happen happen to me. I would show that guy he's messing with the wrong girl." This is what I thought I would do, until I was living it. Because, as I have already mentioned, it's not that easy. In fact it's incredibly difficult. I've always considered myself to be a strong woman, but in that situation, I felt weak. I had no idea what to do, I was lost, and I felt alone. Even though I thought I was alone, it still didn't shock me to find out that I wasn't the first victim. But I had hoped that by me speaking out and saying something it would make me the last. I thought I had accomplished something. I thought I had prevented the future victimization of other young women. And if that was all I could do out of this bad situation, I was ok with that.

But I thought wrong. I recently discovered that Alvis Solis has managed to open up another school. It really hit me hard to think that everything I did, didn't make a difference. That is something I'll have to deal with, because we live in an imperfect world where people can do something unspeakable and all they have to do is wait. Wait for time to erase the memory of their actions so that they can start their old lives again.

I know this post, if it ever gets read, will likely spark some negative feedback in my direction. But I really don't care about that. I guess my goal here is to remind people of what people are capable of, and that time does not always change people. Usually they end up being exactly the same. So please, be careful. Don't accept what's happening simply because you feel there's nothing you can do. Because there is something you can do. Even if it's just temporary.

[Shellybrookie]

the school is sold all parties involved are working as quickly as possible to expedite the change: LLC aquisition, utility roll over, client roll over, lease roll over, name change and branding. it takes some time. this all transpired over a weekend. hard to get a lot of that done on Saturday and sunday. not making excuses for them just saying

Good to hear. That's understandable considering everything happening so quickly.

[jitschix]

FTR it's not Houston, it's Humble, TX. Still Harris County though.

[THEHORSESMOUTH]

Also can anyone confirm that he has sold the school?. I realize the school is no longer solis martial arts and Roy Davis is running it, but if he put it in his wife's name or etc that means he's sitting at home receiving a paycheck.

the school is sold all parties involved are working as quickly as possible to expedite the change: LLC aquisition, utility roll over, client roll over, lease roll over, name change and branding. it takes some time. this all transpired over a weekend. hard to get a lot of that done on Saturday and sunday. not making excuses for them just saying

[It is Fake]

Yes, I left The Villian's initial response here because I'm not culling on topic dissent, whether I agree or not.


If it upsets you, please post in this thread and argue to until your heart is content.
http://www.bullshido.net/forums/showthread.php?t=124321

If you feel a post in the new thread belongs in this one contact staff or Phrost. We all interpret things differently and what I feel is off topic may be fine to another mod.

[Phrost]

This thread needs to be split so that anyone who wants to come forward about or discuss Solis can do so without having their posts lost in a derail.

[BKR]

Also can anyone confirm that he has sold the school?. I realize the school is no longer solis martial arts and Roy Davis is running it, but if he put it in his wife's name or etc that means he's sitting at home receiving a paycheck.

Check with (probably) the assessor's office (property taxes) or the County Clerk/recorder's office (the change in deed/title has to be recorded) in the county where the business was supposedly sold. Some have records online, others you have to go physically to the office and check records. That would be Harris County, if it's Houston (I think).

That would show who owns the property. If it's an LLC or corporation, the change of ownership would have to be registered with the Secretary of State of Texas.

There might also be business license that is required by Houston or (assumingly) Harris County.

[jitschix]

Also can anyone confirm that he has sold the school?. I realize the school is no longer solis martial arts and Roy Davis is running it, but if he put it in his wife's name or etc that means he's sitting at home receiving a paycheck.

Yes, it's now in Roy Davis's name, they're getting Alvis off the lease, utilities etc.

[Shellybrookie]

Also can anyone confirm that he has sold the school?. I realize the school is no longer solis martial arts and Roy Davis is running it, but if he put it in his wife's name or etc that means he's sitting at home receiving a paycheck.

[gandalf]

Alvis has crossed the line ethically and morally

Alvis has crossed the line ethically and morally (I feel for his wife and daughters, they will be forced to live his shame) Initially I did not want to believe the accounts against him. However the fact that he has relinquished control of his team and sold his school indicates that he is taking some accountability for his transgressions. Some people just aren't cut out to be teachers. Hopefully the people who bravely came forward and shared their painful experiences can find some consolation with the fact that because of them Alvis will no longer be in a position to prey on women.

[ilovetortillas]

I feel like I was used to cloak his real game in my sincere fight against sexual abuse in Jiu jitsu.

The art of misdirection. Don't beat yourself up.

[BackFistMonkey]

I'm gonna speak on this. Got chewed up on reddit for it, but fuck it.

I think that the root of this is that this guy is just bad at sex. By the stories presented, the women had no choice but to reject him. He then got all rapey. I think a better approach would've saved all parties involved a headache and he may have even gotten laid in this ordeal. I don't think he was wrong to attempt sex, as men tend to do that. I don't see an issue with fucking 18 year olds either.

As for TLI, I think he figured since he wasn't a rapist, he could ignore his personal conflicts with women and attack Schultz. As he himself is judged. Some women hate me. Some like to give me blow jobs. So I won't judge this man for his attempts at sexual intercourse. I will judge him for how he went about it after rejection though. In that he was wrong.

Just my analysis of the situation as it stands. I have no emotional investment in this.

Students are clients, you don't have sexual relations with clients ... unless you are a prostitute then it is expected and part of the agreed upon service(s) rendered.

Why is this hard people?