What is your breaking point?

[Horus]

So, I overheard a conversation with one of the fellas I know, a nice enough guy who trains BJJ, telling someone else how his wife had to hold him back from physically assaulting a salesman who was being a prick. It made me think, is that really all it takes for some people to get physically agressive?

Personally, the only times I would resort to violence are:

1) A loved one or someone who is clearly helpless is in danger
2) I am in danger
3) My life/the life of a loved one is being made unbearable by someone

Other than that it's not really worth it. Bit of verbal, someone being rude, I can let it pass. So what is your 'breaking point'? Will you happily snap someone's wrist for not returning your 50 Cent CD in time? Or do you need to be held up against metal spikes by your arch-nemesis while your mother is being anally sexed up the bum before you unleash the deadly?

[BudoMonkey]

I'd say generally I agree with you. I don't ever start in on someone just because they said something stupid, usually my reaction is just to say something smart back and make them feel like more of a retard. I mean though...if someone were to say some vulgar shit to or about my wife or kid, I might just snap and try to take their frickin head off. I dunno, depends on what day you catch me I guess.

I can't imagine that the car salesman was being too rude, right? Do you know what he said in context that caused this? And how much was he really trying to hurt the guy in the first place if his wife was strong enough to hold him back? "Hold me back, Debbie! Hold me back!" Sounds like bullshit, roid-raged nonsense. Maybe he just wanted to sound cool to the guys at work and it never happened.

[M.C.]

1) A loved one or someone who is clearly helpless is in danger
2) I am in danger
3) My life/the life of a loved one is being made unbearable by someone

you got it down I think, the only thing is, I only act if somebody touches me, danger is relative. There have been many situations that "have been dangerous" but I am a smartass and managed to talk my way out.

[Horus]

I'd say generally I agree with you. I don't ever start in on someone just because they said something stupid, usually my reaction is just to say something smart back and make them feel like more of a retard. I mean though...if someone were to say some vulgar shit to or about my wife or kid, I might just snap and try to take their frickin head off. I dunno, depends on what day you catch me I guess.

I can't imagine that the car salesman was being too rude, right? Do you know what he said in context that caused this? And how much was he really trying to hurt the guy in the first place if his wife was strong enough to hold him back? "Hold me back, Debbie! Hold me back!" Sounds like bullshit, roid-raged nonsense. Maybe he just wanted to sound cool to the guys at work and it never happened.

Apparently he just made a comment about how he was stupid for not buying one of their cars as he was walking off the lot. I don't imagine his wife would have been able to stop it but then again he's not likely to choke her out just to get to the salesman. Probably more just "Come on ****, stop being a twat and let's go home" until he calmed down enough.

[Ming Loyalist]

<sarcasm mode>
it's pretty simple, if you don't want to send me into a roid rage:

• don't look at me or my wife
• don't bump into/touch me or my wife
• don't walk on the "wrong" side of the sidewalk (this being the left side in the US, or the right in the UK) and if you do, get the fuck out of the way if someone else is coming
• don't try to start a conversation with me if you don't know me
• don't talk to me about religion and why i should join yours

as long as you follow those simple rules, you should stay out of trouble around me.

</sarcasm mode>

and people think new yorkers need to lighten up!

[Frank White]

when kids wear their jeans hanging below their butt, that'll usually get me into a violent uncontrollable rage.

[thedogwave]

it takes quite a bit to make me actually hit someone nowadays. like everyone said you'd have to do something pretty bad to me or someone close to me or just be way up in my face being an asshole for an extended amount of time. from my bar travels it seems like people who always start shit and get into fights are usually the worst fighters ever.

[E-Van]

Its funny because I think I am on the oppisite side of the spectrum. I think I need to start knocking peoples teeth out sooner then I usualy do. I am a way laid back guy, and to many times I feel I walk away from a problem thinking, " Man, why didnt I just lay that guy out?"

I think its the Buddha in me.

[Omega Supreme]

A person pissed on my car last night. I didn't get mad. I told him to apologize he didn't I didn't get mad. I finally walked into the bar where he was and told him to grab a towel and clean up the piss on my door. He said it wasn't him. I was going to tear the bar apart. Lying to me isn't fun.

*edit: I wouldn't hit somebody over this but I was right there at breaking point.

[Omega Supreme]

A person pissed on my car last night. I didn't get mad. I told him to apologize he didn't I didn't get mad. I finally walked into the bar where he was and told him to grab a towel and clean up the piss on my door. He said it wasn't him. I was going to tear the bar apart. Lying to me isn't fun.

PS. Don't touch my family.

[The Question]

I don't think I've ever been angry at someone else in my life. Not angry enough to hit them anyway.

I've never been in a fight.

I've never punched someone outside of the ring/cage.

I'm not the kind of person that hits people.

Also, for some reason people seem to be scared of me. The other night I was walking home from the gym and some guy walking towards me crossed the road, walked until he was well past me, then crossed back to my side. I guess I'm scary looking.


Why the fuck would you want to hit someone anyway? Seriously. People are more likely to shoot you if you hit them. And who wants to get shot?

[Vieux Normand]

Lying to me isn't fun.

I absolutely love bjj. It's invincible. There's no way poor li'l ol' 229-pound-me could EVER have hauled up some 150-pound idiot trying to "armbar" me and bounced his head off of a nearby solid object.

Bjj is the BEST.

Bar none.

EDIT: Dunno man, that was kinda fun.

[Grashnak]

PS. Don't touch my family.

In the words of Steve "The Beast" Segal - "You mess with my family, you die!"



Kind of funny incident a while back in which a school friend of my daughter's (14 yo) was taunting another kid for not fighting to protect his "rep".

A couple of days later the taunter showed up without front teeth. Apparently he had been offended by some other kid and his "rep" required that he get the shit kicked out of him.

I'd rather have my teeth than a "rep".

[WhiteShark]

emos.

[Horus]

Why the fuck would you want to hit someone anyway? Seriously. People are more likely to shoot you if you hit them. And who wants to get shot?

This isn't a worry where I'm from, instead it's "who wants to get stabbed?"* (England is rife with stabbings right now).

*This could be a good gameshow idea actually...