Selection pressure throughout history

[Dr. Gonzo]

Spiritual beliefs in some cases, maybe.

Thinking about it I think it any helpful delusion would be very specific to each person.

Some people find god, and then get off drugs. Then others kill some people.

I can't think of any ones that fit the masses as a whole.

For the time period immediately after my leukemia diagnosis,

and for several years after,

I was just playing the part of a leukemia patient, as if it was a part in a play.

It came in handy as the people in the chairs and beds were dying around me.

And with several other prolonged periods of unique situations during that time period.

[Lily]

[lant3rn]

For the time period immediately after my leukemia diagnosis,

and for several years after,

I was just playing the part of a leukemia patient, as if it was a part in a play.

It came in handy as the people in the chairs and beds were dying around me.

And with several other prolonged periods of unique situations during that time period.

So by playing the part; are you saying that didn't actually feel like a leukemia patient but went through the motions of one, to comfort those around you?

I haven't been in your shoes so I'm a bit confused.

[Lily]

The nice guys? Never be at their mercy. Ever. Kill yourself first.

[Dr. Gonzo]

So by playing the part; are you saying that didn't actually feel like a leukemia patient but went through the motions of one, to comfort those around you?

I haven't been in your shoes so I'm a bit confused.

This is hard to describe.

It was not that I did not believe or know that I was a leukemia patient,

it was just that I disconnected from it,

repositioned it in my mind.

And for the months and months while I was confined to a hospital room,

with paralyzed legs,

with a special air and fan system,

and no one could come in without gloves and a mask,

no internet connection available in the rooms those days,

I closed my eyes and traveled to all the places I had been before,

The memory palace of the places I had been,

Thailand, Brazil, Japan, France, Museums, Gardens, the farm land and city streets of my youth,

were all as real and vivid and detailed as if I was there again,

and were more real than the surroundings that I found myself confined to.

I could taste the fruit, smell the smells, and even felt the contact from grappling on the mats.

Because I chose to.

[lant3rn]

This is hard to describe.

It was not that I did not believe or know that I was a leukemia patient,

it was just that I disconnected from it,

repositioned it in my mind.

And for the months and months while I was confined to a hospital room,

with paralyzed legs,

with a special air and fan system,

and no one could come in without gloves and a mask,

no internet connection available in the rooms those days,

I closed my eyes and traveled to all the places I had been before,

The memory palace of the places I had been,

Thailand, Brazil, Japan, Museums, Gardens, the farm land and city streets of my youth,

were all as real and vivid and detailed as if I was there again,

and were more real than the surroundings that I found myself confined to.

I could taste the fruit, smell the smells, and even felt the contact from grappling on the mats.

Because I chose to.

I have a better picture now, thank you for sharing.

[Lily]

...despite the fact that they’re weak, fucked up, selfish, child-like, emotionally driven creatures incapable of functioning in a logical manner.

You’re 45?

[AprilRains]

Why should we expect to be any different from men in this regard?

[jnp]

You have a very rigid view concerning relationships between women and men.

I went back and found this post because it best illustrates my point.

Edit: Well sheeit, I posted this before I read all the posts where everyone piled on you already. It was not my intention to criticize, merely to make an observation.

[BKR]

For that matter, I just told a female and a male grappling student yesterday,

in public, that neither one of them had enough ass, or leg musculature,

to maximize the potential goodness of their leg shots,

and I wanted them both to get a proper strength and conditioning coach

to build up their legs and ass for greater strength and explosive power.

I have had to tell students same sort of thing. At first, it is usually normal conditioning.

Told Son 1 same thing. First thing is don't gas out.

[Devil]

Alright, I’m going to share some valuable relationship knowledge for you twats, and then I’ll come back and address some of your retarded, clueless commentary when I have time.

Most of you are going to turn your nose up at my advice, because what I’m suggesting is not going to be an element that is present in most of your relationships. But there is value in my words, whether you choose to listen or not. So, here it is, in a nutshell.....

SET THE STAGE TO HAVE NO EXPECTATION OF PRIVACY BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR SIGNIFICANT OTHER!

Everybody loves to blather on about trust and respecting each other’s privacy and all that garbage. Privacy is not something you should aspire to in a committed relationship. It is something you should seek to eliminate.

If your wife wants privacy, she can close the bathroom door when she takes a shit. But there should be zero privacy when it comes to whereabouts, and especially there should be no expectation of privacy with respect to online activities and use of technology. None.

Their cell phone is where shit is going to start most of the time. If you and your chick don’t know each other’s pass codes and have the okay to use each other’s electronic devices whenever you please, then you’re fucking up.

Think about it this way.....before the widespread use of cell phones, if your girlfriend came over to your house and needed to use your home phone, would you tell her to fuck off? No, you’d let her use the goddamn phone. If you had a desktop computer and she needed to use it, would you tell her to fuck off? No, you’d let her use it. But all of a sudden, those same technologies can fit in your pocket and now we act like it’s supposed to be this big, private thing. Fuck that. Not in a committed relationship. There should be no secrets and neither of you should have a fucking thing to hide.

Do you have a pass code on your microwave? Does she have to enter a six digit code before she can flush your toilet? Fuck no, because there’s nothing to hide there. Literally, the only reason to lock your phone away from your partner is that you have something to hide. It is cancer to a relationship.

I know what you’re thinking.....”But, but.....what about TRUST????!!!” Nope....try again. I’ll give another analogy. I used to fly single engine airplanes as a hobby. I trusted the airworthiness of the airplane I was in. I believed the engine was going to perform perfectly every single time. I trusted it. In fact, I trusted it with my life, or I wouldn’t have been in the plane in the first place. But does that mean I didn’t look at the oil pressure gauge repeatedly during each flight? Hell no. Because that would make me an idiot. Trust, but verify. That is the correct way. There is nothing noble about blind trust. It doesn’t make you a better person. It doesn’t give you the moral high ground. It only makes you a pilot who doesn’t look at the oil pressure gauge.

If someone is a casual fling, I have no expectations in this regard and I give nothing in return. But if I’m in a committed relationship, we’re going to have openness, and I will not ask anything from a woman that I won’t give in return. My girlfriend and I know each other’s pass codes to our devices, we permanently share our locations on our phones, etc. There is no expectation of privacy, and that’s how it should be.

Now, does that mean you’re never going to get cheated on? No, not necessarily. If someone wants to cheat, they can be sneaky and find a way. But that doesn’t mean you should make it easy for each other. You should put barriers up to prevent it. You should make it difficult.

Here’s the thing, a lot of the cheating that happens could be avoided if your partner just knew you were paying attention or knew that there was risk of getting caught.

A lot of cheating doesn’t happen with one Big Bang. It’s a slow burn. It starts with someone liking their Facebook posts regularly. Then there’s a seemingly innocent instant message. Then there’s light conversation and a building of friendship. Then they begin confiding in each other regarding personal matters. Before long, they’re fucking and it “just happened.”

A lot of that shit could be eliminated at the very first or second step of the process if there was some visibility into your partner’s activities. Maybe with some openness, your partner receives that first instant message, realizes that it is a potential problem causer in your relationship, mentions it to you right away, blocks the person and it’s never an issue beyond that.

Don’t make it easy for your partner to ease into a familiar relationship with another person as they rationalize it as being innocent along the way. Establish boundaries. Establish rules. Have expectations for proper behavior. Talk about them. Agree on it. Then enforce those boundaries with an iron fist.

Ignore my advice at your own peril. Trust, but verify.

[Devil]

Okay, so I’m not going crazy when I say you’ve changed somewhat. At least the online persona we see. Thanks for sharing.


Why go there (both of you - she should just be open with her husband and leave honestly rather than playing behind his back)? Aren’t there plenty of fish in the sea? You’re setting yourself up for lifelong disappointment by being complicit in it. I also don’t buy your ‘women are more cold hearted’ line, that’s just your experience. I wouldn’t even place a gender against such a statement, case by case basis otherwise everyone is guilty in your eyes before they’re even given a chance.

You will never trust anyone because you can’t even trust yourself to ‘do the right thing’ (and you know what it is because you make clear judgements on what’s acceptable and not for women in relationships - e.g. a prior post you made about attending musical festivals vs a backstreet boys concert).

Maybe I’m naive, but I believe the best in each person I meet and take it from there while holding my personal boundaries in place.

Yeah, you said it yourself. You’re naive. I realize the way things “should be.” But a grown ass woman should have figured out by now that people aren’t perfect like that.

It’s almost as if you’ve never met a woman before. You’re seriously asking me why she didn’t just leave him? Because there are plenty of fish in the sea? El. Oh. El.

Let me help you, Lily.....Beta Bux and Alpha Fux. That’s what it’s all about. She had her Beta Bux. He was a good man, good father. She was safe. Cared for. She was a kept woman. Didn’t have to work. Didn’t have to do shit, really. Her family loved him. She had a good life. The problem was he just didn’t quite make her tingle enough where it counts. Enter me.....Alpha Fux. I made her feel what she was missing.

Now, normally a woman will just fuck the Alpha with no hopes of anything more and then return home to her man and pretend it never happened. A lot of times, the Alpha Fux is going to be a retard. Alpha Fux might be dumb as fuck, or he might deliver newspapers for a living or whatever. She’s not going to just leave her safe life for that.

But I have an additional element, because I’m Alpha Bux. I have both. She wanted to leave her man for me. I just never gave her that opportunity. Women are like monkeys swinging from tree branch to tree branch. They want that higher branch, but they’re not going to jump if they’re not sure they can reach it. That’s why she didn’t “just leave.”

[Devil]

You have a very rigid view concerning relationships between women and men.

Yep. Rigid and accurate.

[W. Rabbit]

Alright, I’m going to share some valuable relationship knowledge for you twats, and then I’ll come back and address some of your retarded, clueless commentary when I have time.

Most of you are going to turn your nose up at my advice, because what I’m suggesting is not going to be an element that is present in most of your relationships. But there is value in my words, whether you choose to listen or not. So, here it is, in a nutshell.....

SET THE STAGE TO HAVE NO EXPECTATION OF PRIVACY BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR SIGNIFICANT OTHER!

Everybody loves to blather on about trust and respecting each other’s privacy and all that garbage. Privacy is not something you should aspire to in a committed relationship. It is something you should seek to eliminate.

If your wife wants privacy, she can close the bathroom door when she takes a shit. But there should be zero privacy when it comes to whereabouts, and especially there should be no expectation of privacy with respect to online activities and use of technology. None.

Their cell phone is where shit is going to start most of the time. If you and your chick don’t know each other’s pass codes and have the okay to use each other’s electronic devices whenever you please, then you’re fucking up.

Think about it this way.....before the widespread use of cell phones, if your girlfriend came over to your house and needed to use your home phone, would you tell her to fuck off? No, you’d let her use the goddamn phone. If you had a desktop computer and she needed to use it, would you tell her to fuck off? No, you’d let her use it. But all of a sudden, those same technologies can fit in your pocket and now we act like it’s supposed to be this big, private thing. Fuck that. Not in a committed relationship. There should be no secrets and neither of you should have a fucking thing to hide.

Do you have a pass code on your microwave? Does she have to enter a six digit code before she can flush your toilet? Fuck no, because there’s nothing to hide there. Literally, the only reason to lock your phone away from your partner is that you have something to hide. It is cancer to a relationship.

I know what you’re thinking.....”But, but.....what about TRUST????!!!” Nope....try again. I’ll give another analogy. I used to fly single engine airplanes as a hobby. I trusted the airworthiness of the airplane I was in. I believed the engine was going to perform perfectly every single time. I trusted it. In fact, I trusted it with my life, or I wouldn’t have been in the plane in the first place. But does that mean I didn’t look at the oil pressure gauge repeatedly during each flight? Hell no. Because that would make me an idiot. Trust, but verify. That is the correct way. There is nothing noble about blind trust. It doesn’t make you a better person. It doesn’t give you the moral high ground. It only makes you a pilot who doesn’t look at the oil pressure gauge.

If someone is a casual fling, I have no expectations in this regard and I give nothing in return. But if I’m in a committed relationship, we’re going to have openness, and I will not ask anything from a woman that I won’t give in return. My girlfriend and I know each other’s pass codes to our devices, we permanently share our locations on our phones, etc. There is no expectation of privacy, and that’s how it should be.

Now, does that mean you’re never going to get cheated on? No, not necessarily. If someone wants to cheat, they can be sneaky and find a way. But that doesn’t mean you should make it easy for each other. You should put barriers up to prevent it. You should make it difficult.

Here’s the thing, a lot of the cheating that happens could be avoided if your partner just knew you were paying attention or knew that there was risk of getting caught.

A lot of cheating doesn’t happen with one Big Bang. It’s a slow burn. It starts with someone liking their Facebook posts regularly. Then there’s a seemingly innocent instant message. Then there’s light conversation and a building of friendship. Then they begin confiding in each other regarding personal matters. Before long, they’re fucking and it “just happened.”

A lot of that shit could be eliminated at the very first or second step of the process if there was some visibility into your partner’s activities. Maybe with some openness, your partner receives that first instant message, realizes that it is a potential problem causer in your relationship, mentions it to you right away, blocks the person and it’s never an issue beyond that.

Don’t make it easy for your partner to ease into a familiar relationship with another person as they rationalize it as being innocent along the way. Establish boundaries. Establish rules. Have expectations for proper behavior. Talk about them. Agree on it. Then enforce those boundaries with an iron fist.

Ignore my advice at your own peril. Trust, but verify.

No.

Zero trust for starters.

Then you build trust, over time, as you have been.

Careful though, it can be blown at any time.

[Dr. Gonzo]

Interesting and thought provoking commentary as always, Devil.