Thread: Road Rage
10/05/2007 10:41am, #11
- Join Date
- Jun 2006
- Northern Westchester County
Wow, a lot of good points especially where I screwed up. I could easily have been boxed in and/or shot. The guy chased me and at the time I just did not want to go on a chase.
When in the parking lot I wasn't mean mugging, I just stood by my car looking dumb waiting for the H2 driver to take some action. Eventually he just pulled up, stated "Do you know who the **** you are dealing with? ". I said no, explained in a calm rational voice what he did wrong at the offramp. I got no more than a few words out when he started again with "Next time, know who the **** you are dealing with before you run your mouth", repeated that a few times and then drove off.
I was an idiot there because I actually called after him with "Sir!" as a polite greeting trying to get my point across instead of just letting him go. It didn't make a difference, he was gone.
Best detail of the whole encounter: his license plate was NY - IMURDADDY. Driving home I couldn't help but wonder what would have happened if I answered his rhetorical question with "Papa?!".
10/05/2007 10:42am, #12
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- Dec 2006
Bad move man, if you have a family or obligations, or work, don't risk it over a silly issue such as a bad traffic pattern. We risk enough already training in what we do, no reason to further that risk.
If I it was me, I'd walk away, call me a punk, call me a coward, but I'd be the one who won't be going to jail, getting fired from work, or possibly being killed by that idiot.
Put things in perspective, would it be worth it to lose everything over a non-threatening situation?
10/05/2007 10:45am, #13
Originally Posted by NasalInfection
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- Aug 2007
The problem you have is that you're waiting for something potentially bad to happen and can't use the adrenalin, unless he does something or you run. This makes you uncomfortable. Itís very hard to stand there and remain calm. Breathing exercises can work, as can certain mindtricks. Adrenalin is on balance a good thing, however, evolution does a good job.
10/05/2007 10:46am, #14Originally Posted by NasalInfection
10/05/2007 10:50am, #15
"Do you know who you're dealing with?"
"an idiot who can't spot a five-pound handgun under a fishing vest?"
10/05/2007 11:21am, #16
Fight only when you must. In this case, you didn't have to. You were being taunted by some rich prick in a Hummer ... a vehicle named after what he probably gave his boyfriend last night!
Avoid road rage at all costs and here's why:
"The seventh law of thermodynamics is that every time a fat person gets near a trapdoor, they fall in. Itís the closest thing we have to scientific proof of God."
10/05/2007 11:37am, #17Originally Posted by NasalInfection
10/05/2007 11:51am, #18
I would continue on about my business, keeping a close eye on him and make sure I kept a row of cars between us.
10/05/2007 11:54am, #19Originally Posted by NasalInfection
10/05/2007 12:14pm, #20
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- Mar 2006
To echo what everyone else has said - it's better to be cool. Road rage is dumb. There's so much important **** to worry about without getting riled up about how some turd is driving.
As far as your reaction goes, anyone can get scared. But I think the more you train, the less likely it is in a situation like that. In my experience, good solid training also makes you much more likely to walk away from a fight. Looking back, the times in my life when I was most aggressive were the times in my life when I wasn't training. A lot of times people fight because it will hurt their pride if they don't. They'll feel like a coward if they don't. But when you're 95% sure you can stomp a guy, it's a lot easier to walk away if he doesn't actually attack you. Why bother beating the crap out of him? It'll be like beating up your little brother.
I had a similar situation a few years back. I was at a mall and a guy didn't like my driving. He approached me as I was getting out of my car with my wife and started running his mouth from about 5 feet away. I looked him in the eye and very calmly said, "Buddy, you better get out of my face." When he saw that I wasn't afraid of him his voice started trembling a little and his tone changed. I walked away from him and went in the mall.
Here's my point - when he walked up I immediately wanted to nail him, but that would've been the wrong thing to do. As I was walking off, I saw a cop sitting in his car about 40 feet away. He was watching us. Also, about two years later my wife and I were in the same mall. She was pregnant and slipped and fell on a spilled drink and ruined her clothes. We went to the security office to file a report and there were about a zillion cameras recording every inch of that place, including the parking lot. If I had knocked that dude out, I would've been so screwed.
Anyway, be cool and only fight if it's absolutely necessary.