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    I am a pu$$y who is scared to beat people up in sparring

    Lately I have noticed that I am a little shy about going off on people in sparring. My technique has improved a lot over the past few months, and the last few people I sparred, I dominated without taking much effort. The problem is, I am always scared about hurting the guy or looking like an asshole (this is more of a problem with people who are less experienced than me, but it happens with people who can kick my ass too). For example, when I catch someone with a clean roundhouse across their face, I am always saying "geez sorry are you ok?" (I sound like a total homo, I know:happy7:).

    Also, I am hesitant to just hammer on someone with multiple hooks or shots to the face, so I go with with a combination, only doing a few punches, when I could hit them much more than that.

    Part of my problem is I am scared of slugging it out with someone in close. I will sacrifice more hits I could land on my part to just to avoid the possibility of getting hit. I won't get hit much, but I know I am not doing all I can.

    I have a difficult time striking the balance between training that is preparing me to fight, and being a gentleman. Any suggestions or advice?

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    Punch/kick the hell out of them (within reason), ask questions later.

    They're learning too.

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    You can hit and kick people nicely and still "mean it" . A good training partner will only complain when it is needed and will encourage the contact level till you are both a little "pushed and moving" .

    Wear your mouth piece , get some good training gloves and shin/instep pads , throw a cup on , maybe even some head gear , and have fun . If you are really all that much better than them you will not be eating shots .


    What would you consider your normal level of contact ?
    Quote Originally Posted by ghost55 View Post
    Violence is pretty uncommon in clubs in this area, and the dude didn't seem particularly hostile up until the moment he slapped me.
    I don't mean to sound bitter, cold, or cruel, but I am, so that's how it comes out.
    BILL HICKS,
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    Good lord man ... I just realized you are doing Muay Thai ! I thought you were some TKD'er on the reform or something .

    Kick and punch them ! Hard , until they complain , or whoop your ass .

    That is what everyone there should be paying for .
    Quote Originally Posted by ghost55 View Post
    Violence is pretty uncommon in clubs in this area, and the dude didn't seem particularly hostile up until the moment he slapped me.
    I don't mean to sound bitter, cold, or cruel, but I am, so that's how it comes out.
    BILL HICKS,
    1961-1994

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    Quote Originally Posted by BackFistMonkey
    Good lord man ... I just realized you are doing Muay Thai ! I thought you were some TKD'er on the reform or something .

    Kick and punch them ! Hard , until they complain , or whoop your ass .

    That is what everyone there should be paying for .
    Is there an echo in here?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Steve
    Is there an echo in here?
    It started out different . It just ended up that you were right and I was looking at the situation wrong , then rhought maybe it should be elaborated on a little , both my change of thought and your post .

    It isn't my fault you have the correct yet are vague at the same time .
    Quote Originally Posted by ghost55 View Post
    Violence is pretty uncommon in clubs in this area, and the dude didn't seem particularly hostile up until the moment he slapped me.
    I don't mean to sound bitter, cold, or cruel, but I am, so that's how it comes out.
    BILL HICKS,
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    switch to tkd

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    I have the same problem. It really depends on who you are as a person. When I spar, it's always against someone I know, so I completely understand the inhibitions with sparring. By your description, you mentioned you don't like slugging it out... are you a range fighter or more clinch inclined? If you're not a range fighter, you should probably take some time to get comfortable with slugging. You'll learn that getting hit doesn't really hurt, and if you do get tagged, your partner will lay off. It's almost like a trust thing.

    Have you had any fights, or sparred against unfamiliar people? When that happens, is it the same situation? I've found that this problem totally disappeared when I sparred at other clubs. I would hit hard and to "kill", without any hesitation.

    Just remember, there's a fine line between "fight" and "spar". Throw all your punches, at least 80%. If one sneaks through and clocks them, lay off, but if they don't, keep throwing. The only thing that will fix this is time. Keep sparring, eventually you will reach a comfort level.

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    Get over it, don't cheat your training partners just because your daddy hugged you too much. Go train.
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    I have similar issues.

    I find I can only go as hard as the other person is going.

    So when I get hammered I am happy because I now feel OK to try and do it back.

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