Rolling with Ladies

**KayRoc** · Posted On: 6/18/2007 6:39pm

I rolled with a lady for the first time last GJJ lesson. She was a one stripe white belt, I got a sub off on her pretty quick, but I felt guilty after that, so I just let her sort of move me around, and worked on escaping her side control.

I wanna be a good sparring partner, how do I react to teh girlz? There are a couple in my class, I dont wanna be some dick, cranking the hell out of them and muscling them around, but I know I shouldnt just sort of lay there like I did last time, what do I do?

On a lighter note, getting in their guard and 'stacking' them comes to mind. ;)

****** ME... I think I am gitmo for life :( .......**

**RunningDog** · Posted On: 6/18/2007 6:47pm

This does not belong in DHS and if it's here more than 5 minutes I'll eat my cigarette (it's lit)

**Thaiboxerken** · Posted On: 6/18/2007 6:54pm

Just roll with them like you'd roll with any other person. If you are dominating the person you're rolling with, take advantage by trying some moves that you want to work on. If you are being dominated, you get to learn how to defend better. Their gender should not matter, always try to learn something every time you roll. Help your partner if they do something really silly as well.

**KayRoc** · Posted On: 6/18/2007 7:02pm

**roly** · Posted On: 6/18/2007 7:11pm

i too get a bit confused at times

some girls like to mix it up and get offended if you go easy (these girls are great to roll with)

other girls look like they are going to burst into tears if you put them in an uncomfortable postion (these girls are not so fun to roll with)

i generally play nice and just work sweeps or something that doesnt cause mad bruises until i work out what kind of girl i'm rolling with

**Ryno** · Posted On: 6/18/2007 7:14pm

In general, I try to avoid just out-muscling anyone that I am substantially stronger than, regardless of gender. Sure you could crank them into a keylock. But what's the point in practicing that if you won't be able to do that against someone your own size or bigger? It's fine to make them aware of your strength occasionally so that they realize when they are terribly vulnerable, but try to avoid just being a bruiser.

Other than the general strength thing, there shouldn't be much difference in how you roll. They are not training in martial arts just to have guys be nice to them. In my club, the ladies usually get really pissed if you go easy on them. But we've got some cool chicks...

**Thaiboxerken** · Posted On: 6/18/2007 7:18pm

**namaste** · Posted On: 6/18/2007 8:18pm

theres a girl in my class who weighs like 30kg. so to takedown you just lean to the side a bit, and to sweep you turn your hips a bit. I feel like an arse going too easy on her, so I put her in a firemans carry and dropped her, but then I felt like more of an arse, so I just go easy on her instead.

**Southpaw** · Posted On: 6/18/2007 8:24pm

KayRoc

I'm guessing that your problem will end as soon as you stop rolling with white belts.

I suggest you find a purple or brown belt woman and report back to this thread.

Good luck.