Yup, good training will not always feel like Disney land. I do care if the shinai/bokken situation your talking about is abusive instead of training though.
Originally Posted by Koto_Ryu
Intent and modeling is really the thing.
If the intent is training and it fits in the model that the school presents, then fine.
If the instructor is just getting a power trip from it, or targeting certain people because of race, creed, religion, gender....then it is abusive and wrong.
Just like anything else, it is intent that makes the difference.