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    How do you deal with thirsty people trying to flirt with others in the gym?

    Obviously, just try to pull them to the side and talk to them. lol.

    I've been to a fair amount of gyms and usually this isn't a big deal (in my experience) but I just wonder how instructors would deal with it? I've dated a lady at my gym once a few years ago but it was so subtle and just came naturally.

    I'm really talking about the type of people who uncomfortably try to flirt with someone of the opposite sex during or after training?

    Anyone deal with this? this is mostly a gym owner issue but it could potentially make other gym mates uncomfortable.

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    Quote Originally Posted by big maclol View Post
    Obviously, just try to pull them to the side and talk to them. lol.

    I've been to a fair amount of gyms and usually this isn't a big deal (in my experience) but I just wonder how instructors would deal with it? I've dated a lady at my gym once a few years ago but it was so subtle and just came naturally.

    I'm really talking about the type of people who uncomfortably try to flirt with someone of the opposite sex during or after training?

    Anyone deal with this? this is mostly a gym owner issue but it could potentially make other gym mates uncomfortable.
    Well, I tell people to socialize after class. But I don't run a commercial dojo, and have not really had problems with the issue.

    I'd think it should be handled ahead of time with a written set of training guidelines that people have to agree to follow before they are allowed to train. If they don't, refund plus sayanora...

    Coaching stuff in Judo, not supposed to date students. That's in more of a formal athlete-coach situation, as in competitive athlete training, part of the ethics code we sign when getting certified.

    I can state from experience it's not a good idea to date students. I did it once and swore I'd never do it again. And I didn't, either.

    Of course, I'm not exactly a chick magnet, now or back then, either....
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    Just install a fountain, or have some bottled water on hand to sell.
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    On that note, I guess I'm just not hip anymore, but what does 'thirsty' mean in this context?

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    Quote Originally Posted by BJMills View Post
    On that note, I guess I'm just not hip anymore, but what does 'thirsty' mean in this context?
    They pretend to be thirsty, and use that as an excuse to start a conversation?
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    Quote Originally Posted by BKR View Post
    They pretend to be thirsty, and use that as an excuse to start a conversation?
    Hey, I'm thirsty. Do you want to go grab a drink? At my place? Naked?

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    Quote Originally Posted by BJMills View Post
    Hey, I'm thirsty. Do you want to go grab a drink? At my place? Naked?
    I've got some coconut oil, er, I mean, water...
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    Hi, I'm ____, I see you are sweating heavily, and I'm thirsty and in need of electrolytes, mind if I have a drink?
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    Quote Originally Posted by BJMills View Post
    On that note, I guess I'm just not hip anymore, but what does 'thirsty' mean in this context?
    Public behavior during which one exhibits a desperate need for attention.
    Often misused to mean "mentally disabled person who is sexually aroused by Drake and the BackStreet Boys".
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    Quote Originally Posted by BackFistMonkey View Post
    Often misused to mean "mentally disabled person who is sexually aroused by Drake and the BackStreet Boys".
    Oh... that's me!

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