Maybe I'm just not "a fighter"
I know I'm a newbie so if this isn't the correct forum please forgive and move ( so soddy...). Anyway, I've never been much of a fighter, didn't get involved in many in school, never provoked one. Always been more of a thinker/calmer type dude. Anyway, I recently started taking martial arts again (see styles) and I'm enjoying it but noticing that especially during sparring (we do "light" contact with pads at our current rank which is yellow) I'm very open to attack and just don't feel "good" at it yet. I land a few great shots from time to time because I'm intelligent but that's about it.
I don't seem to have the "vision" is the best way I can say it. My instructor is great so far at pointing out tips, teaching me how to defend my face/body, move and look for openings, check, etc but I'm just...I don't know...unconfident I guess.
Now, I'm sure I'm just being a ***** (and I would expect to be called nothing less here) but it seems to me there should eventually come a time when I feel confident going into a sparring match/fight/etc. I'm looking forward to doing more sparring/groundwork/etc. too to help me be more well-rounded.
Will this ever come? Is it just a pure lack of experience that will come with time? Are there other people on here willing to drop the machismo and relate with their own anecdotes?
Am I just a wuss? :suicide:
Thanks for the responses.
We had this discussion at my boxing class recently. Sparring is fun when you are flogging the **** out of the other guy. Not so fun when you are getting beat up and overwelmed.
If you are new and sparring is uncomfortable then with experience you should get better.
If you have been training 5 years and it is still the case then you have an issue
by the way being a ***** is not sparring because it is uncomfortable
I typically don't miss a class of any sort due to fear. Injury would be about the only thing that would keep me from it.
My main motivation for the question was wondering if the ability to be a fighter is something that can be learned. If so, I don't mind being patient.
^^^ The correct. Sparring is shitloads of fun when you are dictating the action, not so much otherwise. Grappling with someone who is superior in skill is somewhat more bearable only because you are not eating punches and kicks like a pothead wolfing Doritos. Keep at it, ultimately it's either something you will learn to enjoy or you will move on to other things. Don't worry about being a "wuss". There are plenty of guys who are beasts in the gym who can't live up to their responsibilties outside. Don't try to not be a wuss in the gym, be a man in life.
Yes it can be learned. If you are not a natural fighter do not try to get creative when you spar just do roboticly exactly what you are told to do.
You may have to start by cutting down the movements that you use. the same strikes the same blocks all the time and get your head around that first. Almost a smaller system of what you are allready doing.
Exactly what sort of sparring are you doing?
Everyone has it in them somewhere. Some people have been brought up differently/bullied/oppressed etc which might mean they find it harder to become aggressive in a sparring/fight situation however, it IS something that can be learned and it IS 100% psychological.
I had a psychological issue once and it caused me to under perform for a long time. Train hard, have confidence in what you're learning and you'll surprise yourself with how quick you develop the aggression.
"The hero and the coward both feel the same thing, but the hero projects his fear onto his opponent while the coward runs. 'Fear'. It's the same thing, but it's what you do with it that matters". - Cus D'Amato
I know one of the things I had to get over when sparring was this nagging issue where I had an irrational fear of hurting the other guy. Despite sparring in a safe manner. I at times still run into the problem of just letting go and not worry about them(not talking about being out of control but just not holding back when I shouldn't be).
Originally Posted by Turrry
Why yes, you are a *****. I'm here for you. I tend to **** the ***** many time, because I'm the dick. If you were an asshole, I'd **** you too. But since you're a ***** I will just tell it to you straight.
You need to be given a decent pounding until you are nice and loose. If you start bleeding please take the proper precautions and use a tampon to prevent excess spillage.
When your hymen has been properly ruptured come talk to us and we can talk about lubing you up better.
I may be something of a masochist, but I enjoy sparring even when I'm not winning. It's perception and reaction. Just like lifting weights will make your muscles stronger, sparring will make you better able to detect an incoming attack earlier and lessen the time it takes your body to respond.
How long have you been doing hard sparring? You are probably just inexperienced.
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