The rule of thumb is - there is nothing inherently wrong with anything. It is our judgment that makes something "wrong". That doesn't change the fact we perceive it as "wrong", and that helps us connect with our choices ad beliefs to what to do in a situation. IMO, Puebla is looking for some sympathy from this truth and doesn't understand that we will not be giving him it. Getting sympathy is ultimately a failure because it does not lead to connection within groups.
The vast majority of us see Pedophilia as "wrong", so those who participate in it are out of luck because of that. Our opinions will not change because of a poorly put together, emotionally triggered, and childish ( all judgments on my part) argument on why we are all pedos in real life.
I fucking hate pedos, and will avoid working with them until I can effectively control myself around them, which I openly admit may be never, although I give myself empathy about the subject whenever it comes up for me.
Puebla give this whole guilt trip used by some psychology people as " there is no inherent evil or good, so i am good no matter what", or the argument I see in the NVC community as "I was ONLY meeting my needs, so it was ok".
the very fact that connection is not forming effectively with people is the inherent qualm i have with this situation, and very sadly I can not see there being a community forming effectively with people who have such prominent and differing ideas that are so emotionally triggering.
also, I can not see myself giving Puebla empathy at this point because I hate what he is doing SO MUCH, I end up giving him sympathy instead, and that does not accomplish anything.
PLZ, trollshido this whole thread and let it die.