It's funny. I knew going into it that this place was a McDojo, but I thought it wouldn't be that bad. I can't stomach it though. Last class was totally spent on doing kemps and combinations. The BJJ on Tuesdays and Thursdays is awesome and I'll miss it tremendously, but I don't want to go to class and be bored.
My current situation aside. I am still really curious to hear from people about spreading the word of aliveness in training.
In a totally hypothetical situation, how would tell someone about the benefits of aliveness, while doing your best to not offend or put them on the defensive?
I wouldn't. Every martial artist already intuitively understands the concept of aliveness, even if they don't recognize that word. There's a reason why some people seek out aikido and others seek out muay thai. When you find a dead, compliant school it's not because the teacher and/or students never realized that they could be hitting and getting hit, it's because they aren't willing to hit and get hit.
Face it someone people just want to live with the fantasy they want to believe that they can do x x y and z. If they have to actually train in an alive situation then they have to face up to the fact that it is actually hard to fight off the roving rape gang.
The good news for them is that the roving rape gang is as much of a fantasy as their training.
I think of it like the Chinese plow vs the European plow. The European plow is straight and moves through the ground at a right angle.. Now, a Chinese plow is shaped like a point/triangle, so it cuts through the ground far, far more efficiently. Its this ___ vs this ^ in an aerodynamic contest, and the fluid medium is soil. The Chinese plow makes way more sense, but the Europeans didn't figure it out until the Chinese one slowly made its way to the West, where Europeans probably slapped their forehead and felt stupid. They weren't unskilled farmers, but they hadn't considered other possibilities.