Problem with one the philosophy of one of the instructors.
Hey. The title is poorly written, sorry. I could not change it.
Today, a new guy appeared in my class. He was almost the only white belt in class (class mostly filled with blue beltst and up ), and the instructor in charge at that moment ( brown belt) told me -blue- to roll with this guy. This new dude is an average building boy , about 20 yo. It was his second class -and I think his first roll-The guy even have a gi.
When the bell rang , the man got frozen like a deer under a strong light .He was scared, but looked like a humble and really polite guy. He said '' hey, what do I do '' , so I told him to try to practice the basic positions on my , and if he knows some sub , try to pull it. He pulled guard, tried to dome some armbar, I passed his guard, made him tap carefully with a half guard top guillotine.. We shake hands , and keep rolling. I did let him to gain top position, then practice some escape , and I end in side control top . I was controlling him without applying all my weight ( I am 230 lbs, he was far lighter and new), and then the instructor told me to crush him with all my weight ( the guy was weak,tired , out of shape and could barely breathe with 1/2 my weight on him). Five seconds later, the training bell rang... it was over.
After class I told him that this guy was really new -took his first class with other instructor at the same gym-, and that the guy was freaked out. He said something like this
'' When I started BJJ, in my first class I came home all soared, with a black eye,Itchy joints and bruises in all my body . Punishing the new guys is a way to help them and make them strong. Making him suffer badly under your side control will help him to become a man and, also help you to improve your side control''.
I told him -the instructor- that I think very different. I do not see the point in punishing a weak nerdy newbie teenanger who can not defend himself , who came to train with lots of respect to the upper belts and the grappling etiquette.
Am I being disrespectful to this coach?
Is this guy nuts or has seen many KOBRA KAI scenes of karate kid ?
Am I wrong?
Do I have to tear the kid's arm ?