Is there really a self defense for weaklings?
Last night in my jiu jitsu class 2 young ladies came in to check out the school. I'd say they were 17ish and very petite (well under 100 lbs each). They wanted to learn some self defense and grappling and I ended up working with them for the first part of class.
I showed them some wristlocks from various grabs (kote mawashi, kote gaeshi) and let them practice on me and on each other. Each of them got the form fairly correct, and was able to achieve the lock with some guidance, but during the instruction I found myself doubting whether they could make this work under pressure even under the best circumstances. The reason for my doubt was simply that they were so physically weak and small.
Granted they were new and being typically nervous and gentle, but I encouraged them to increase the pressure some, corrected the hand/wrist angles, control and positioning to maximize the lock. Even then I think I could have stood out or flexed out of the lock fairly easily.
I really wanted to encourage the girls to stick around because we don't have many females training with us - 1 pro fighter who is an instructor, and 3 other adult women in the classes. My problem is that I don't know what physical techniques would actually work for someone so tiny and frail. I don't want to encourage these young ladies down an unrealistic path.
My thought is that de-escalation (ala Gracie's Bullyproof program), and environmental and situational awareness would clearly be the best strategies. I made sure to point out the basic awareness stuff and the get loud & gtfo strategy as we worked, too.
This is my first time instructing such physically small adults; I've worked with the kids class plenty, but it's different for me mentally because we don't teach kids the same program that we do for adults.
Do any instructors have feedback on this? How Do help these young ladies stay safe and keep them encouraged and interested in MA without misleading them about their real place in the bad guy hierarchy?