I was wondering if this rings a bell with any of you who are practicing Buddhists.
I think another part of the issue is that we are all involved in recovery. At least for me that means being very mindful of my thoughts, words and actions. I am making a conscious effort to improve and be healthy. And through this forum and al-anon I have made a conscious effort to associate with like minded people. It is very important for my recovery.
However most people are not on the save wavelength with me anymore. Its not just alcoholics that are good at quacking and denial. They really don't see the disconnect between their words and their actions.
Recovery isn't just a path or a process that we use, it becomes a way of life. I will never willingly give up this clarity again. It seems to me to be a parallel with the Buddhist idea of enlightenment and living a mindful life.
Just my 2 cents.