Dude just take a turbo kickboxing class. Youll meet chicks and look like a fag, which if Im not mistaken are your two training goals.
If I went to a boxing gym I would train to box.
I will say that I am also interested in judo and BJJ but I cant do it all right now. I know there is a BJJ place here in town though.
I want stuff like this, for example in dragon kung fu:
- 16 Movements/Holes
- Passing Bridge Three Times
- Fierce Tiger Leaping Over Wall
- Rescue Master From Single Side
- Single Sword and Mount
- Press and Hit from Four Sides
- Eagle Claw
- Bridge Smashing
- Touch Bridge (introduces sticking hands)
- Venomous Snake Moves Tongue
- Hua King's Fist
- Standing Five-Form
- Cross Standing Five-Form
- Turn to Hook and Hit
- Five Horses Returning to Stable
- Plum Flower Punch
- Seven Ways of Plum Flower Punch
Interesting, i though Karate was about kicking people in the head.
You'll get more conditioned to taking strikes in full contact striking arts than prancing around in shiny PJs.
As for the "perfecting character" part, I've been to a few clubs and gyms in my time. My experience is that most gyms that train people for competition and\or to actually fight are really laid-back, while non-sparring kata fairies usually are ego-tripping assholes who crank locks during compliant drills and hold themselves in a higher regard than everyone with a lower belt rank than them.
Of course there are exceptions to this, but pushing your body to and past its limits and taking and receiving shots is the biggest slice of humble pie I've ever tasted, and you develop a healthy respect for other people that way. Combat sports are just as character building as "traditional" martial arts, maybe even more.
But again, there's no use doing something you don't enjoy under an instructor you don't like. I'd suggest that you try out both your kung fu and BJJ, as most gyms have trial classes, and find out what you enjoy more. Personally I think grappling is a blast, even if it looks a bit weird to the untrained eye.
Look into Muay Thai a bit. There's a good balance of sport and tradition since you're learning the punches of boxing with traditional Thai kicks, knees, and elbows. I just recently started and the satin shorty shorts we get to wear with cool Thai writing on them are pretty comfy.